Advice, please?

Jill & Jade

Jill & Jade

Member Since 2018
Hi all!! Jill and Jade here. Been awhile as Jade has been in remission for quite some time. I still watch so many of you, regularly as this site helped me tremendously.
I have a situation that I need some advice about... my civvie passed last January and Jade seemed pretty sad. So, in February I took her to my boyfriends home and she and I have been there ever since. I still have my home as well where Jade, Dexter and I were for the past 11 years.
Jade LOVES being where she is. She has a balcony and floor to ceiling windows. She has cat condos and window seats and is happier than ever.
Last weekend, my guy and I broke up. This coming Sunday, I’m bringing her back to my home and am PETRIFIED that she’s going to be upset/ confused/ stressed/ depressed and come out of remission.
I’m bringing all her cat furniture, toys etc with us. My (now ex) is coming with us as well so she feels familiarity. She does NOT travel well but it’s only about a 15 minute drive. I ordered the spray that’s supposed to calm her and will be putting her in a carrier that is different from the one I use for vet visits.
Could stress cause her to lose her remission status? Is there anything I can do for her other than what I’ve mentioned? I am so very worried that she’s going to miss the things that she’s gotten used to over the last year. It’s never been just her and I and I don’t want her to be lonely or stressed. :nailbiting:
Any advice is greatly appreciated!!
Jill
 
Sorry things didn't work out with BF. Stress can bring temporary high numbers, but should go away on it’s own. Feliway spray in the carrier and Feliway diffusers at the old home can help. You can also try Rescue Remedy for Pets. I did a couple drops on a treat 1/2 hour before we travelled. Maybe some new toys or cat post to help keep her distracted?
 
I don’t think the stress will throw Jade our of remission. Especially since it’s a short trip and she’s going to a familiar place.
When I know one of my kitties is going to go somewhere. I bring the carrier in, put a towel in it and leave it in the floor with the door open. They play in it (it’s just a fun box when it’s at home), nap in it and get there scent in it. Then when we go, the carrier is familiar. You could also put a t-shirt or something you have worn in it, so it smells like you.
 
Wendy&Neko said:
Sorry things didn't work out with BF. Stress can bring temporary high numbers, but should go away on it’s own. Feliway spray in the carrier and Feliway diffusers at the old home can help. You can also try Rescue Remedy for Pets. I did a couple drops on a treat 1/2 hour before we travelled. Maybe some new toys or cat post to help keep her distracted?
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Thank you! BF’s will come and go, but Jade is where my heart is. I will look into the Rescue Remedy. I still have many of her things at my place from before. I tried to get rid of Dexters stuff immediately after he died. I’m still a mess over that loss. My hope is that she will be excited to be here. I hate to think of her any other way.
I see that you’ve become a Moderator! That’s great!! Sad about Jill. That seemed to take everyone by surprise. You helped a lot with Jade when she was diagnosed. Forever grateful.:bighug:
 
Jill & Scooter said:
I don’t think the stress will throw Jade our of remission. Especially since it’s a short trip and she’s going to a familiar place.
When I know one of my kitties is going to go somewhere. I bring the carrier in, put a towel in it and leave it in the floor with the door open. They play in it (it’s just a fun box when it’s at home), nap in it and get there scent in it. Then when we go, the carrier is familiar. You could also put a t-shirt or something you have worn in it, so it smells like you.
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Thank you! I have a huge carrier that I brought her to his place in last February. It’s been in storage and we took it out yesterday and set it up. She ran right inside and has been playing in it. So when Sunday rolls around, hopefully she won’t freak out too much. I think she equates the small carrier with vet visits. She has a box that she LOVES and we will put that in the carrier as well. It’s big enough for a large dog.
I Appreciate the feedback!!
 
Olive & Paula said:
Have something with her and your scent on it to leave on couch or chair.
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Good thinking!! Will do! Thanks!! Also, I’m off on Sunday and Monday. I won’t leave her alone until I go to work on Tuesday afternoon. She hasn’t been alone much, ever. So, I’m a bit nervous about that as well.
 
Sorry things didn't work out.
Can you get a cat window seat for Jade? I have one and it's a favourite.
Also any chance of getting an outdoor cat enclosure? Doesn't have to be big.
 
Bron and Sheba (GA) said:
Sorry things didn't work out.
Can you get a cat window seat for Jade? I have one and it's a favourite.
Also any chance of getting an outdoor cat enclosure? Doesn't have to be big.
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Thank for the response!She has a great window perch that she loved when she was here. It’s freshly washed and ready for her. I live in Chicago so the outdoor cat enclosure could be tricky. My ex’s place was high up and the view from the balcony was heaven for her. Fireflies and birds and bugs, oh my! I guess it’s a blessing that it’s not summertime when this is happening. She really loved her summer evenings there, as did I.
 
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Jill & Jade said:
Thank for the response!She has a great window perch that she loved when she was here. It’s freshly washed and ready for her. I live in Chicago so the outdoor cat enclosure could be tricky. My ex’s place was high up and the view from the balcony was heaven for her. Fireflies and birds and bugs, oh my! I guess it’s a blessing that it’s not summertime when this is happening. She really loved her summer evenings there, as did I.
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Are you able to leave a window open at all...if it has safety gauge on it. Cats love to hear and smell the outdoors.
Mine can go out year round but also love to sit at a door or window if it is open.......we have gauze doors and windows though on everything being Australia.
 
Bron and Sheba (GA) said:
Are you able to leave a window open at all...if it has safety gauge on it. Cats love to hear and smell the outdoors.
Mine can go out year round but also love to sit at a door or window if it is open.......we have gauze doors and windows though on everything being Australia.
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Absolutely! I always have the windows open ( weather permitting) She loves the sunshine.
 
Jill & Jade said:
Thank you! BF’s will come and go, but Jade is where my heart is. I will look into the Rescue Remedy. I still have many of her things at my place from before. I tried to get rid of Dexters stuff immediately after he died. I’m still a mess over that loss. My hope is that she will be excited to be here. I hate to think of her any other way.
I see that you’ve become a Moderator! That’s great!! Sad about Jill. That seemed to take everyone by surprise. You helped a lot with Jade when she was diagnosed. Forever grateful.:bighug:
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Just ordered the Rescue Remedy drops!
 
Jade looks great in the sunshine. By the way, there is also Rescue Remedy for humans. ;) You can buy it in vitamin shops.
 
Wendy&Neko said:
Jade looks great in the sunshine. By the way, there is also Rescue Remedy for humans. ;) You can buy it in vitamin shops.
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Good to know!! I need it!! ;) I think they sell that on Amazon as well as the cat drops. Perhaps I’ll adjust my order. I’m trying very hard to keep a positive attitude around her altho she must know that I’m sad and stressed. Cats are so perceptive. I feel guilty leaving her at his place when I’m at mine, but don’t want to bring her back here until I have a few days off to spend with her.
 
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