A check-in post death & organization

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LGoddess

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The last time I posted here was the night my best friend was murdered by the cat sitter (i.e. starved for days then repeatedly shot up with insulin till she could no longer move. She died of severe kidney failure). Over a year has passed and despite many happy occasions occurring in my life like getting married, I'm still haunted by the nature of her death and remain painfully heartbroken. I was urged to look for legal help since such confessed (in writing!) animal abuse is against the law in my state, but the only one who can press criminal charges is the local DA. The sorry guy refused though in surrounding counties, people were charged left and right last summer for leaving their dogs in the car when they went out. (I printed out every publicized case of animal abusers being charged in other counties and sent them in pointing out that this abuser actually killed her, not just maimed her, but no dice). So this is my little check-in. Thank you all again for your loving support.

What I've been wanting to do is to donate to an organization that is working to cure feline diabetes. I'm not sure where to be directing a fund in memory of my girl towards. Do you have any places you would suggest?
 
So sorry to hear about the ordeal your kitty suffered, as well as what you've suffered w/ your local DA. There are always local rescue groups you can support, but many of us who have had "extra sweet" kitties know the limited number of people willing to take on the care of "special needs" cats.

I would suggest you consider doing something for DCIN (Diabetic Cats in Need) - whether it be monetarily, donating insulin or supplies, sponsoring a foster kitty (in someone else's care), taking in a foster kitty, or doing transport. I had lunch w/ Kim today and we discussed one of the DCIN fosters that may need some help near us. A couple of texts later and there are several options for its care. She adopted Chewy from DCIN. We've both done transport. And how rewarding is it to know that you helped give life to a kitty that would otherwise be PTS? What a great feeling to get that baby to it's new home!

Whatever you choose to do will be a great memorial to your baby!

God bless!

Lu-Ann
 
What a tragedy. I'm so, so sorry. Even if you can't get your local DA to prosecute, this is one of those times I look toward karma doing it's thing. One way or another, you will get justice even if you never know. The universe has a way of working things out.

DCIN is a good organization that does a great deal to help diabetic cats.

There are two other organizations that you may want to look into although unlike DCIN, they are not specific to diabetic cats. Cornell University has a Feline Health Center at their Vet School. Like Cornell, Winn Feline Foundation supports research on feline health. I have absolutely no doubt that both Cornell and Winn have staff who can help to set up a grant that is specific to researching feline diabetes. If you live near a vet school, you can talk to their university development staff who can help you to do the same. Large organizations may not be terribly interested in small scale donations whereas DCIN does not have large administrative overhead and any amount of money will do tremendous good.
 
Just posting to say I remember Dollbaby and how devastating it all was to not only you, but so many of us that read what had been done to her. I think we all went through rage and anger and heartbreak over the whole thing and how deeply our hearts went out to you and Dollbaby.
 
Hi. I wasn't here at FDMB when that happened to you. However, I want to say two things: One, if you are ready to honor your cat and move on, that is the right thing for you to do. I hope you are and you can find some peace. If you are ready, it is what is best for you, and you need to begin to heal. It may be that taking further steps to have this person brought to justice will cause you more harm, and it's not worth it. Karma will take care of it. Your cat is at peace. ***** See below if interested in how I know about this sort of thing.

If you are not ready or can't be yet, I think that what this DA needs is a letter from every single member of this board asking him why he will not prosecute, and demanding an answer. Then, we get it in the media that he has received all these letters, on youtube, on Facebook, everywhere. I am so tired of it being within the discretion of a DA who will charge people who are desperately poor and have no child care so they left the kid at home for 10 minutes while they bought milk for the child and nothing bad happened, but who is a DA who will not prosecute true monsters who deliberately harm animals. (I'm not condoning leaving the kid at home, and Please everyone! I'm not trying to start a conversation about that subject! I'm just trying to make a point about the fact that an animal is just as helpless and at the mercy of adults as is a child.)

Ultimately, it should be your decision whether we do this or not. If by doing something like this we were to prolong your pain, that would be a shame. Again, your cat is at peace, and she would not want you to continue hurting like this. She is playing in the grass, chasing butterflies, and sunning herself. Being haunted by the nature of her death is normal and natural, but now that she is at peace you have to learn that you can be, too. It is okay if you let go of all those bad feelings. That is what I tell myself about the several animals and my relatives I have had who died from events over which I had no control. It helps me, at least.

*******(I don't "move on" all that well, and I have to take action someday or I won't stop hurting. However, I have learned that I'm in for more anxiety and sadness (and disappointment at the fact that those in charge sometimes don't care, or worse, have an interest in the status quo) when I decide to continue the process and try to bring someone to "justice." Long story: my 98 year old grandfather with Alzheimer's was left alone at night by his court appointed guardian after I begged the man to provide 24 hour care for him. He nearly froze to death, but was rescued by a friend he had called earlier that night. After this "guardian" was exposed in court by my private investigator and then had to take the witness stand and admit he messed up so seriously, that guy still has his job (elected) as the guardian for all the elderly and incapacitated people in that county. I plan to change that.)
 
I remember you too...My heart goes out to you. Your babies story still haunts me as others that have met a disasterous fate. Karma will deal with murder you can be SURE of that. Thanks for checking in. Remember once in the FDMB family always a member.
May peace find and follow your heart,
jeanne
 
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