Amy & Herman
Member Since 2022
Yesterday
Looooong post alert!
Without dredging up my whole life’s story, over the last three nights we have welcomed “Ralf” into our home.
I adopted Ralf from a downtown shelter about 18 years ago when I lived and worked downtown. It was a brief stint, the rest of my life has been lived outside Toronto on a large equestrian farm with multiple dwellings.
Ralf is literally the coolest cat ever. Adopted from racks upon racks of poor cats in dark crowded rooms at the humane society I wasn’t able to see him but for his face looking out from the tiny cage (they wouldn’t let me take him out to see all of him). I heard this was the second time he had gone through the facility and I just thought ….boy…he’s been adopted and re-surrendered twice, he’s never getting out of here again, especially at the unkitten-y age estimated at 7. I never felt a downtown condo life was the best for cats as I grew up in a farm with indoor/outdoor cats but I figured it’s better than this, so I took him.
He adapted great! I walked him on leashes and took him to the farm for day trips with me. He was just a relaxed cool cat.
Fast forward a year and I was trying to escape an abusive relationship so I grabbed Ralf and whatever I could shove in a bag and left. Never looked back.
While I stayed with some friends as I tried to sort out a place to live Ralf moved in with another family on the farm.
When I secured my new “place” on the farm property where I would stay to this day, it came with its own resident tomcat!…..I tried bringing Ralf in but tomcat would not have it. So Ralf stayed where he was and gave this family 17 wonderful years, babies were born and they had a most awesome Ralf to grow up with. A sweeter, more gentle cat never existed!
Ralf is now estimated mid-20’s and I fear does not have many months left.
I have taken Ralf in to my home for his remaining time as he was making too much mess for the other family to deal with. He’s not as comfortable here as his home of 17 years, obviously, but not much choice. In the last month prior to my taking him we had vet work ups done etc to see if there’s anything we can do to help with his chronic diarrhea and urinating issues (on shoes etc). I spent over $1000 on tests etc (I’ve always paid his vet bills) and there was nothing glaring in the results. The vet suggested b12 shots (which I do weekly) and Leukaran (also weekly). His BG is on the high side but the vet said to just keep an eye on it. He’s usually mid-6 mmol.
He is mostly outdoors but is brought in around 8/9pm and has run of the house untill about 11pm where we made a comfortable area for him to sleep (I think he might be a bit deaf and he gets nervous around my dog and Herman at times so I think he’s safer enclosed, beyond managing his accidents). We close the area with dog gates so he is not completely shut away. He meows a fair bit. Wakes us up a lot… he’s always hungry so we feed him tons (he eats 2.5 cans of fancy feast between 11pm and 6am alone every night plus as much as he can eat through your the day!)
In the morning we let him out and he walks across the property to spend the day on the porch of his original “home”. At night we collect him again. Come cooler weather I need to get him more comfortable being here with me more. Before anyone asks, I know it’s not appropriate to move a cat at this age of their life but them keeping him has been made clear to me, is no longer an option.
So…here are my queries:
Looooong post alert!
Without dredging up my whole life’s story, over the last three nights we have welcomed “Ralf” into our home.
I adopted Ralf from a downtown shelter about 18 years ago when I lived and worked downtown. It was a brief stint, the rest of my life has been lived outside Toronto on a large equestrian farm with multiple dwellings.
Ralf is literally the coolest cat ever. Adopted from racks upon racks of poor cats in dark crowded rooms at the humane society I wasn’t able to see him but for his face looking out from the tiny cage (they wouldn’t let me take him out to see all of him). I heard this was the second time he had gone through the facility and I just thought ….boy…he’s been adopted and re-surrendered twice, he’s never getting out of here again, especially at the unkitten-y age estimated at 7. I never felt a downtown condo life was the best for cats as I grew up in a farm with indoor/outdoor cats but I figured it’s better than this, so I took him.
He adapted great! I walked him on leashes and took him to the farm for day trips with me. He was just a relaxed cool cat.
Fast forward a year and I was trying to escape an abusive relationship so I grabbed Ralf and whatever I could shove in a bag and left. Never looked back.
While I stayed with some friends as I tried to sort out a place to live Ralf moved in with another family on the farm.
When I secured my new “place” on the farm property where I would stay to this day, it came with its own resident tomcat!…..I tried bringing Ralf in but tomcat would not have it. So Ralf stayed where he was and gave this family 17 wonderful years, babies were born and they had a most awesome Ralf to grow up with. A sweeter, more gentle cat never existed!
Ralf is now estimated mid-20’s and I fear does not have many months left.
I have taken Ralf in to my home for his remaining time as he was making too much mess for the other family to deal with. He’s not as comfortable here as his home of 17 years, obviously, but not much choice. In the last month prior to my taking him we had vet work ups done etc to see if there’s anything we can do to help with his chronic diarrhea and urinating issues (on shoes etc). I spent over $1000 on tests etc (I’ve always paid his vet bills) and there was nothing glaring in the results. The vet suggested b12 shots (which I do weekly) and Leukaran (also weekly). His BG is on the high side but the vet said to just keep an eye on it. He’s usually mid-6 mmol.
He is mostly outdoors but is brought in around 8/9pm and has run of the house untill about 11pm where we made a comfortable area for him to sleep (I think he might be a bit deaf and he gets nervous around my dog and Herman at times so I think he’s safer enclosed, beyond managing his accidents). We close the area with dog gates so he is not completely shut away. He meows a fair bit. Wakes us up a lot… he’s always hungry so we feed him tons (he eats 2.5 cans of fancy feast between 11pm and 6am alone every night plus as much as he can eat through your the day!)
In the morning we let him out and he walks across the property to spend the day on the porch of his original “home”. At night we collect him again. Come cooler weather I need to get him more comfortable being here with me more. Before anyone asks, I know it’s not appropriate to move a cat at this age of their life but them keeping him has been made clear to me, is no longer an option.
So…here are my queries:
- any advise to help discourage accidents in old pets (although based on stories they gave me he’s not making as many accidents here as he was in his other home)
- He looks so thin, frail, poor coat …old (the vet actually thought he looked great for his age)…and I think has some dementia (is that possible?) …how do you know when it’s “time”…is he suffering? How can you tell?
- Herman loves Ralf, has known him from outdoor play time his whole life, but Herman’s BG have been trending up…could Ralf meowing at night and Herman seeing him enclosed be causing him stress? He doesn’t seem stressed….but who knows!
- I feel like Herman is peeing much less than usual. Is he peeing outside more because of Ralf? Unrelated? My imagination? Uti? What signs do you look for aside from getting urine tested.

