6/4 Bear Man family update

[Linda and Bear Man]

It has been just over two weeks since I lost Emily. I brought her ashes home last week, and placed them near those of Bear Man. I do go and spend a few moments with them every day.



Teddy is having a bit of a difficult time adjusting. He has never been without another kitty to cuddle with.



I do have another cat, but Pinkerton lives in his own room due to feline aggression issues. My two remaining boys live separate lives. Some day I may go to work on a gradual introduction of the two of them. My first project with Pinky has been to put him on a diet to lose a bit of weight. On Week One he gained weight, so that isn't going well.



I could never have imagined how different my life, and how empty my house, would be with two beloved kitties gone within seven months of each other. My thoughts are with all of those who have lost loved ones or who are struggling with health issues with their kitties.

 

[Roni and Moonie]

Linda, I so know what you are going through--My heart still breaks everytime I think of Copper, but then I smile at all the great moments he gave me--
So I cuddle up extra times with Moonie & channel all my Love into her--
It really is an terrible feeling, the emptiness they leave is gut wrenching, BUT every day I grieve, then go about my life, Knowing he is close by & has shown me that so many times already..
Try to enjoy your other two, maybe some miracle will bring them together--
All my love & comfort to you--I'm just 2 weeks ahead..HUgs from us!

 

[Libby and Lucy]

((((Linda)))) I think about you and Teddy all the time. Things must be so different in your house now. It's hard to even think about it. I wonder if Pinkerton would be ok with Teddy, since Teddy is so gentle? Then again, if Teddy has mostly had good experiences with other cats, you might not want to introduce him to a cat that won't be nice to him. Hard to say.

 

[Dyana]

(((Linda and Teddy))) I think about you two all the time, too. Actually, I really felt for Teddy first, I'm sorry
Well, he doesn't have a message board to come to Linda, I really feel for you too, and think about you and your sorrow often. I wish I could give you a kitty to love. You want Ginger? She's real sweet. Teddy will love her, eventually.
Just kidding. I love her, I just pretent to call her my red-headed-step-child.
((((((More Hugs)))))))))))

 

[Sienne and Gabby (GA)]

Teddy does have you. It might not be quite the same. I was worried about Teddy after Bear crossed. Teddy is such a good caretaker. Give that boy a hug for me.

 

[Tena and Curry(GA)]

Hi Linda....Hugs for you my dear.

You've been on my mind Linda. Sometimes that quiet and stillness that accompanies the losses can be deafening.

If you are interested in the guidelines my Vet Behaviorist gave me feel free to pm me. Not sure it would work w/your two kitties but I'm glad to share.

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you guys.

 

[Karrie and Maverick]

(((((((Linda))))))) Sending lots of hugs your way.

 

[Pat+Raja+Shadow (GA)]

(((Linda & Teddy & Pinkerton))) Thinking of you three.....and sending hugs.
Teddy was such a wonderful help with both Bear Man and Miss Emily....I think of you guys a lot and wonder what he is thinking. Please give him a kiss from me too....I am sorry Linda....loosing your two precious ones within those short months must be very difficult to handle.
Hugs and love to you all :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG:

 

[Ella & Rusty & Stu(GA)]

Linda, we do what we can to live with our loss and still make a wonderful home for our kitties who are here with us, physically as well as spiritually. Teddy is so lucky to have you to love-- and to love him. I'm sure that he misses Bear and Emily terribly. Maybe he needs a kitten to care for. Pinkerton sounds like an interesting guy and I hope that he will gradually be integrated into the household. How old is he and how long has he lived with you?
Your pictures of Bear's and Emily's resting places are so beautiful.
Stu is always in my mind and heart. Rusty is a totally different being, but he brings Stu to mind whenever he plays with an old toy of Stu's, or occasionally does something that Stu would have done. Then, when I think of Stu I go back in time and think of Alice, who was again a totally different kitty. I like to think that Alice and Stu are sharing their kitty lore with Rusty. He is such a dear kitty. Edward and I can't get over how wonderful he is! I am so glad that you had the opportunity to meet him and to help him on his journey to us. Please tell Teddy that Rusty is looking forward to seeing him at the next party (next weekend) at Camp Stu.

Rusty and Edward join me in sending love and hugs to you, Teddy, and Pinkerton,

Ella

 

[Linda and Bear Man]

Pinkerton sounds like an interesting guy and I hope that he will gradually be integrated into the household. How old is he and how long has he lived with you?

Thanks to everyone for your comments. Pinkerton is 10 years old, and has lived with me for 9 years. he came to me as a foster cat while recovering from surgery to amputate a hind leg. Things went downhill quite quickly. He bit Grace and Emily, and both had abscessed bite wounds. I went through consultations with a behaviourist vet, treatment with medications, and supervised interactions. He could be in the same room with Teddy, but only under close and constant supervision. Then Emily suffered another infected bite wound, and nearly died from complications. Around the same time, both Teddy and Bear were on immune suppressing medications, and I did not want to risk a possibly fatal bite wound with them. A couple of years ago, I accidentally let Pinky out of his room, and intervened just as he was about to go after Bear. I suffered a very bad bite wound and was on IV antibiotics. He would never bite me like that except in a case of redirected aggression, however, due to the risk of further injury to kitties or humans, his canine teeth were extracted by my vet. Theoretically, he can no longer inflict a deep puncture wound. It is all so sad. I don't think he could ever get to the point of being in the house unsupervised with Teddy. We might get back to being able to be together for short periods. I do not want to frighten Teddy.

Ella, I loved meeting you, Edward, and Rusty. Teddy is looking forward to Camp Stu.

Sienne, I will pass along that hug to Teddy for you.

Dyana, thanks for the offer, but, umm, no thank you.

Roni, I think of you and Cooper and Moonie often.

Tena, I think I will be asking for your guidelines.

(((Karrie))) Hugs to you, too.

Pat, I will pass along those kisses to Teddy, too. Hope you are well. I think of you guys often.

Libby, you raise a good point. I would hate for Teddy to become frightened of cats.

As long as I have Pinkerton, I have no plans to adopt any more cats. I have had some requests to take in fosters, but I am not ready for that yet. Thanks to everyone.

 

[carolynandlatte]

Many :YMHUG: to you Linda, Teddy, AND Pinkerton

You are such an angel, Linda, to care for your cats the way you do. I never knew Pinkerton's history. So few people would continue to give him a loving home after all that.

I wish I could wipe the sadness away for both you and Teddy. You made quite an impression in my life seeing how generous you are w/ your heart to both animals and people. I think of you guys often. May your healing process be gentle. May all of you find comfort together.

 

[Marje and Gracie]

(((Linda))): what a beautiful memorial area to your two most beloved GAs Bear Man and Emily. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is. And I feel so bad for Teddy....poor little sweetheart. I know you are giving him so much love and attention....you are such an awesome caregiver. You all are in our prayers.