6/25 Loose Lips

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So you guys know how I've been kind of sad that I haven't felt a sign from Maverick since he left me. I've been having a real boohoo week. Missing my dad too.

There are two things I miss most about Maverick being around: His talking. V&H are not talkers. When Henry even gets a squeek out my husband and I both have shocked looks on our face "was that Henry?". And him sleeping on the bed. He always slept on my side. Ever since I had a bout with insomnia I toss and turn often and even sleep turned around with my pillow at the foot of the bed. The air is cooler there (A/C, Window, Fan etc). Maverick would always join me to sleep at the same end of the bed I had changed to. I would just reach out a hand and touch him gently to get him purring. When he left, the air purifier had a hum almost like a purr and I kept it running so I could imagine that Maverick was still on the bed with me. I had the air purifier in the bedroom because of his asthma.

None of the cats seem to like the bed. Victoria never comes in there. Henry sleeps on the doggie stairs now though at the foot of the bed (aside from the brief visits to make sure we are awake and breathing). Two nights ago I woke up to Victoria sleeping at the foot of the bed (my side). And she stayed there quite a while.

Last night, I woke up and she was right next to my pillow. *heart tug*. Then I switched ends of the bed. Although she didn't join me at the other end there she stayed there on the bed, all night long. Even with my tossing and turning and petting her when I went to get my dogs medication twice at night.

It may not be a sign from Maverick. But it helped refill my heart some to think that this was something I missed so much and after two months of Victoria not being in the bedroom she is sleeping on the bed, and my side.
 
((((Karrie))))....i know it hasn't been easy for you....i know you miss Maverick....

I know Victoria will never replace Maverick but in a small way she is starting to warm up to you and perhaps that is Maverick's sign....he is giving her permission to come to the bed....

fwiw...feeling Rocket next to me on the bed is one of the things i miss the most of him...and he is still here with me....ever since he got sick in Dec-Jan he stopped coming to the bedroom...and to this day he doesn't go in there at all....i have tried putting him on the bed but he bolts so fast....i stopped "forcing him" to be there....so i miss that a lot...

i know you are also missing your dad lots....sending you a big hug from us (((((((Karrie)))))))
 
((((KARRIE))))--I know what you are feeling--Look for very subtle signs from him, a feather(Copper has sent me 3 so far), a noise,
a butterfly or dragonfly, lights going on off or flickering(or any electrical disturbance), a shadow, air going past you, a dream of him, a spirit communicating is a very gentle subtle thing--I do classes in this so pm me & I'll try to send all the info..Believe me Maverick is around you--
The other 2 cats. Well, Copper came into the bed for 5 seconds most of the time, and head butted my pillow-
Moonie, now that he is gone, comes into bed via her steps, & stays for a few minutes--Copper after years, would plop onto my lap only on the right side :lol:
Cats Have Trust Issues!! You know that--Please be patient, they are coming around! Hugs always from us!
 
Hi Everyone and Happy Caturday!

Karrie, Maverick is there with you, and Roni and Claudia are right: he is sending you messages through Victoria and Henry. Stu sends us messages through Rusty. All of a sudden Rusty will do something that he hardly ever does, but that Stu did all the time, like digging through a trash basket, or licking a plastic bag! (Thankfully he hasn't started to pound on doors!!). It's great that Victoria is starting to sleep on the bed, and that Henry reaches out to see if you and Patrick are still there (Rusty does this, too). I hope that you will have a lovely day today with your kitties and that your wonderful memories of Maverick will be a comfort always.

Ella & Rusty
 
ah, karrie, it is so hard to lose those we love. sometimes i think of this season of my life as being a season of loss - my parents both died in the past 5 years, my children have all moved out (well, except 2 are back at the moment) and i left the job i loved because of the crazy boss. but i recently decided i have to look at all that has been added on, or will be. my kids will add on significant others & likely have grandchildren, i'm adding on the freedom to travel, i have more time for my friends and i have time enough to take care of punkin. If i were still working there was a lot of travel and i wouldn't have been able to do as well with him.

henry and victoria will never be maverick, but each of them has qualities & quirks waiting to be discovered - and when your heart has healed a little more you will see them and appreciate them for who they are. maverick had his own very special things, and H & V do too. give yourself a little bit more time.

when i ponder the meaning of life, sometimes i think this is what it's about. first you learn how to truly love and then you have to learn how to let go and live without that love. isn't that crazy? for me it's a tough, tough lesson, especially the letting go part. but, just thinking out loud, perhaps more than living without the love it's also learning to see what that love looks like after they are gone - what part remains with us.

not even 8am - too much thinking for a saturday morning!

my daughter kept my flowers alive and the birds & squirrels fed - coming home to the cool refreshing deck is like returning to paradise!
 
Claudia thank you for being there. Here is big hugs for you too (((((((Claudia)))))))). I am sorry the bedroom is no longer a safe place in his mind. Its amazing that he's associated that with his being unwell.

Roni - every time Copper left you a feather I was bawling. I was so happy for you. And I was wondering if maybe Maverick was sending signs but I was overlooking them. Not open to them. I will be sending you a PM. I've been thinking of my Dad lately also. His ashes spreading is tonight and I've decided I can't go (long story). I love that Copper headbutted the pillow. That made me smile.

Ella thank you for sharing about Rusty and Stu. It is bittersweet. Rusty and Stu licking plastic bags and routing through the garbage got me smiling.

Julie I am so sorry you had to say good bye to both your parents and a job you loved. Big hugs to you. I had a friend email me the other day when I was seeking advice on tonight. And she also is a lot like you. I am going to work extra hard on changing my perspective. There is a different side to everything including loss. Thank you for sharing this. H&V are very unique and I'm learning more and more every day. Henry will take much longer to know as he still hasn't come out of his shell completely. I'm not a fan of sad life lessons thats for sure. But this resonated with me:
perhaps more than living without the love it's also learning to see what that love looks like after they are gone - what part remains with us.
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I just loaded up on 4x16kg bags of black oil sunflower seeds for the birds and the squirrels and the chipmunks.

I ruined my hardwood floor today. Bought a dehumidifier and didn't realize its been leaking the last three days. Its just wood. My dogs lungs are better for the bigger dehumidifier (one upstairs and downstairs now). Still a bummer.

Well its past my bedtime. Thank you for being here. I am thinking of Sandy and hoping she's doing okay.
 
Karrie, I'm so sorry you're missing Maverick so much. I know how much it hurts.
I think it's so sweet that Victoria is starting to sleep with you, after all this time


On a lighter note; I met Devon and Peter today. Checkers, who runs and hides from even my family, just stayed on a chair and let Devon, and then Peter, pet him.
Talk about a cat whisperer; he was sleeping, and she starting very softly stroking his nose; he opened his eyes, and I swear I heard him say, "ooh pretty lady, I'm yours".
He put his chin on the arm of the chair and enjoyed the two of them, stroking him. :-D Unbelievable :smile:
Then like a gentleman, he ran off and gave her, the chair.

Devon's as nice in person, as she is on here. With a thousand watt smile! :smile:


Barb
 
(((Karrie)))....so many wise and thoughtful ones in LL. So much to learn from them all. Just remember that every day is a moving forward day. It's wonderful to have memories but there is so much life ahead and you are young. As much as you miss Maverick, and I also miss my GA Max even after 1-1/2 years, you have a great gift in V&H. How lucky are they that you and DH opened your hearts and home to them.

Barb: I'm so happy you got to meet Peter and Devon. I would love to meet LLders! I never would doubt for a second that Devon was any different than she is in LL.....her encouraging words every day go a long way.

Checks is looking good!
 
Thanks Marjorie. V&H bring smiles to my face every day, many times a day.

Barb, that is so cool that you met some Peter and Devon!!!! And that Checkers staying out instead of running and hiding so they got to meet him too.
 
((Karrie))

One of the things I find astonishing is how cats' behavior changes. My Gracie (GA) taught George (GA) to talk. He saw that she got attention for vocalizing and as a result, he began to talk, too. Gracie would sleep in my arms at night. After she crossed the Bridge, George took her place on the pillows. Gizmo is really not a lap cat. He's beginning to learn to plant himself next to me at night.

I'm not sure how they figure these things out. Do we in some subtle way train them? Do they train us? Do cats have some mysterious sense of intuition when it comes to our needs? I don't have those answers. Give H & V some time. They'll figure it all out.
 
((hugs)) for Karrie. I know how hard it can be. As I completed packing at the apartment, it really hit me how it was the last home that my Miss Belle had, and Willie and I were now leaving. It had been a hard few days, when she came to me in a dream, enjoying the breeze in our new backyard, and rolling around in the dirt on the patio like she would in our other homes. I like to think the dream was her way of assuring me that she was moving along with us. It's still hard, but it gave me a bit of peace. Ordered a new urn for her remains that will go beautifully in our new living room so she will always be home with us. Just keep your heart open, and you'll find the signs that Mav is sending. Henry and Victoria will adjust in time.... as they come to trust more, i'm sure they'll be part of your bedtime routine in no time!!
 
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