5/16 Tori's Family Update

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Barb and Tori

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Hi everybody. It's been awhile hasn't it? I'm sorry I have been MIA for so long. I had intended to be back much sooner but I guess the grieving process has taken a lot more out of me than I thought it would. Tomorrow marks two months since Tori went to the Bridge. For most of that time I have been in a kind of a limbo just trying to get through each day and do what I have to do. I miss my little Missy Kitty so much but I have come to the conclusion that she is trying to tell me enough is enough and to just get it together and get on with it. That was very much her attitude to adversity- just get on on with it and do the best you can.

Today is my boy Rocky's 14th birthday. I got Rocky when he was 3 months old. He was the last present my parents gave me before they both died. He was such a tiny little kitty. He only weighed a 1/2 lb. He looked almost like a new born. I got him from the SPCA a year after we got Tori. It was love at first sight for both of us. I was looking at another kitten and he reached out his little paw and touched my leg. I picked him up and he started to purr and knead me and that was it. I knew he was mine. Rocky is very much a 1 person cat. My son calls him my Familiar because he is so incredibly attached to me. He knows me so well and is always there for me. He gives the most wonderful back rubs. Yes back rubs but for me only. He was a sickly kitty with longstanding IBD until I started them all on a raw diet and within weeks he started to gain weight and had normal BMs for the first time in his life. He's so healthy now and acts like a kitten most of the time. He has done very well with Tori's passing and has been a great comfort to me and Ayanna.

Malachi our youngest kitty has had a harder time. He didn't want to eat at first (unusual to say the least) but he has gradually come around. He is much more of a cuddler now which is nice and has taken over being the recipient of the bedtime story which was Tori's role.

Ayanna has been doing very well. She turned 4 on April 15th. She misses Tori a lot as well but is accepting of the fact that she is is Kitty Heaven and is happy and healthy again. She wants us to get a girl kitty one day but even said she's not ready yet. Amazing.

As for Tori she has been taking her new role as a Guardian Angel very seriously. A couple of weeks ago my daughter set her mattress on fire. My daughter sleeps like the dead but fortunately she woke up and we were able to but out the fire it got out of control.

My son continues to struggle with his health. He has been getting a lot of migraines and unfortunately because of his kidney status is not allowed to take anything for them. We are still waiting on the MRI which won't be done until AUgust 31st. After that he will have the kidney biopsy and hopefully be able to start on the medication that he needs. We will be seeing the geneticist in Calgary on June 20th. Hopefully they will be able to give such some more answers. So so far we are still going on the premiss that he has Ehler's -Danlos Syndrome which is causing the kidney issues. Some how Daniel has been able to keep a pretty positive attitude towards the whole thing. He's doing much better than me. I am having a real hard time with it all. The thought that I may have passed this on to him is very hard for me to take and of course I worry about Ayanna as well.

So that's the update on us. Again I am sorry that I haven't been around. I have lurked a bit and all of you have never been far from my thoughts and my prayers. Luv you all.
 
I was thinking about you and Tori the other day. I'm so glad you came back to visit. We have a "Loose Lips" condo if you feel like just dropping a quick note.

I hope you're moving ahead. Your other kitties sound like a delight. Stop by again soon, Barb.
 
Barb - how wonderful to hear from you! I hope you are well. I often think of you, wonder how you are, your family too.

Sometimes grieving can take a while, there is no sure answer. We need the process to move on, remember, take a new course. It is hard to believe that it has been two months since Tori's journey. I know how much you miss her. In time that too will heal.

you kitties sound like an absolute delight. HAPPY BIRTHDAY ROCKY!!!! I am glad that both Rocky and Malachi are doing well, and that Malachi has come around. Sometimes kitties can be so attuned to the passing of another. It has been that way with one of mine. I am glad that he is better.

Kudos to Ayana to know that she is not ready for another. that is amazing!

And I cannot pass on enough well wishes to your son. I wish that things would be right for him, that they can get a handle on it all. I am sorry that he has to wait do long for answers.

It is exceptionally nice to read that Tori, the guardian angel is watching over you all. No doubt that she is.

Take care, and I hope you will visit us again, soon.
 
Hey Miss Barb! Glad you stopped by...Sending Healing Vines & Prayers for your DS Daniel..Hope he will be well & he will be better soon. I lost my civvie Copper two weeks ago so I know what you have been going through-It is so hard, but Moonie is such a little trooper, she has adjusted to his passing & is now loving all the attention we give her, without her brother around..He has given me many signs & i dreamt about him last night. They really do watch over us.
Glad you came by, happy all your babies are well & you havent forgotten us..Hugs from us as always :YMHUG:
 
Hi Barb
happy belated birthday to Rocky. He sounds like a very special kitty.
Don't be sorry Barb for taking time out, we understand.
And I'm sorry you are going thru some difficult times, hang in there and be strong ((((hugs))))
I'm glad to see your update, check back again soon, k?
 
so good to see you!

sending only the best wishes for your son...

and HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY, ROCKY!!

Tori knows exactly how the world of love turns...she is watching over you now as you so faithfully and lovingly did for her, Barb.

your post just confirms my beliefs about love surpassing the worldly boundaries...
thank you for that!

much love to you...

celi & binks
 
Barb, It was so neat to see your visit to Rusty's condo yesterday. I have been thinking about you and your family. It is good to hear that Tori is watching over you all and that things are OK. Yes, it takes a while and one cannot rush the process of grieving.
Anyway, I hope that all will go well with your son's visit to the specialists. Migraines are awful. Have you ever hear of the "Stillpoint inducer"? You rest your head on it and it relaxes all the muscles in the head and neck. Here is a link:
http://www.amazon.com/body-back-company-Still-Inducer/dp/B000P9BTCY?tag=felinediabetesfdmb-20
My DH has one and it has really helped him.
Happy Birthday to Rocky!

Thanks again for visiting us, and don't be a stranger. The "Loose Lips" (LL) condo is opened by the first person to get to it every day and is great for chatting, sharing pics, etc.

Have a good evening, and I hope that Ayanna will read a terrific story to Malachi tonight!

Hugs,
Ella & Rusty
 
Barb: so great to hear from you. I can't believe it's been two months since your beautiful brave Tori crossed. I know she is with you always.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ROCKY!!!!

I truly admire Daniel for all he has been through and continues to go through. Keeping him and you in our thoughts and prayers.
 
((((((((((((((((Barb))))))))))))))) I missed your post and don't know how. It is really good to see you on.

Grieving is a process and its different for everyone. I wish we were all closer and we could help each other through it. I watch Maverick's video of him talking often. I planted a tree in his honour so I can watch it grow and become beautiful like he was. Grieving wise I am surprised that I am doing so well and kind of feel guilty about it. I'm not myself still - I don't have the joy, the heart warmth that I had before. Feels kind of empty. Being on Lantus Land was extremely hard. Seeing life move on when it seemed like I had to grieve the loss of our daily condo. It hurt like I lost a family member on top of losing Maverick. Sienne mentioned the Loose Lips thread. Its a general chatter thread. Its great for those of us that don't have daily condo's or for people who don't post often and for off topic news and pictures. It meant so much to me to have a place on LL. I am glad your civvies are adapting now. They must go through a process of their own.

Happy belated birthday to your boy Rocky. I can't imagine how tiny he was and how he captured your heart with his paw. Hearing how Malachi is becoming more cuddly and taken over story time is heart tugging. I'm glad Ayanna has the others to hug and to hold.

I think Tori is with you every day and is a guardian angel watching over you. I'm watching for signs that Maverick is with me but I'm wondering if my heart is still closed off.

Sorry your son has such issues to deal with. Genetics has come a long way. Its not something you could have known about. So if it is hereditary there is nothing you could have done. Is there a support group for people that have this and their families?

((((((((Barb))))))) Sending more hugs.
 
the grieving process can be long, we all have different ways to deal. I'm glad to hear Tori is watching over you and your family , a wonderful comfort for you I am sure.

Sending healing vines for Daniel.
 
Hi barb,

Thanks for stopping by and giving us an update on you and your family .. I'm glad to hear you all seem to be doing ok .. happy belated birthday to rocky and happy belated birthday to Ayanna .. I hope your son continues his positive attitude while waiting for the right meds ...
 
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