1/13 Shadow - basal cell tumor- DD has left us

[rhiannon and shadow (GA)]

:cry: Shadow's 1/9 condo

Hello.
The vet called and said the lab report was back.
The lump was a basal cell tumor - non-malignant but fast growing....
He said he was really glad we got it off.
The lab feels like he got all of it.... I guess there was healthy tissue surrounding what he took off.

I'm happy it's gone....and yet, I will still worry what/where/when any others are... especially on the inside.
Sometimes I feel like she has a brain tumor ( please say, "it's not a brain tu--mor " in your Arnold Schwartzenegger voice. :razz: )

I say that because her demeanor is often as if she has a headache but it's probably just the pain in her left hip. It is ugly in there with the osteo.... ( I should post the newer xray)

She also has a tiny little bump on the top of her head, had it for a few years....
I can't ever find it at the vet's to show the vet but I felt it again last week.
And I swear the top of her head is getting pointier. ( if anything were growing inside, it's slow )

But... I'll stop...
I should celebrate that we got the lump that could have become something worse....and it's gone.

just remember.... my indian name is Grasps at Straws nailbite_smile ;-) :YMSIGH:

Shadow is running free without the cone....
I let her be without it last night since she is so miserable.... (risky, I know)
She has licked her incision but has not tried to rip out the stitches which come out in another week and a half.
She wants to hide under my bed for some reason. I am keeping the door closed because I don't want her under there.
I gave her pain med this morning and have been giving it every evening.

I can only guess that maybe it's just the post anesthesia response .... she's usually moody/sullen after her surgeries.... It just impacts her negatively no matter what.
She's a bit dandruffy.
Her appetite has been good and we had a 62 bg this morning. ( I checked wondering if she was higher and that was why she was hiding under the bed)


However,
before I can even finish typing my kitty concerns....

my husband just walked in and told me my dd moved out....this morning while I was at work....

she thinks I'm abusive because I've been so emotionally hurt about her moving out and getting married next August 1. We've had what I thought were honest discussions.
I am absolutely beside myself....

She is .....
I just can't believe she would be so selfish...

Why?

 

[Amy&TrixieCat]

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Oh, Rhiannon, I am so sorry about your DD. I wish I knew what to say to make it better. She's a kid...and while I don't have any of my own, it seems that kids really don't understand parental concerns until they are much older...at least that's what I can say about my own experiences with my own parents. Hopefully she'll gain some perspective quickly.

That is great news about Shadow. Maybe she wants to hide under the bed because the whole experience has been stressful for her, and that's a safe zone. I would do the same thing you are, though, with keeping the door closed so she can't get under there. I've only had horrible experiences with cones...I feel for both of you on that one. But, it's great that both her appy and BG are good! I hear ya on the worry about there being others...just treasure each moment of each day. I know, easier said than done :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG: .

 

[MJ+Donovan]

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[Tricia Cinco(GA) & Harvey]

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Hee hee, Good job, MJ!

{{{Rhiannon}}}:

What a roller coaster you've been on - of course you're emotional. On top of everything with Shadow, having a daughter get married is very stressful. Just remember, she's stressed about it, too. The only time I ever made my mother cry (that I'm aware of) was right before my wedding. At the time I was so emotionally charged up, I didn't even realize the effect everything was having on her. Looking back on it later, though, I felt awful. I'm sure you daughter will see that, too, with a little time and distance.

Tumors are scary things, but try not to panic at every bump and lump you feel. If the one on her head is hard to find, and has been for a while, it isn't growing, and that's a really good sign. Just try to relax and enjoy the good news you got from the vet.

Be sure to take some time for YOU!! That's the best way to be ready to deal with everything else that is thrown at you.

Sending healing vines for you, and hugs. :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG:

 

[Rachel & Chyna (GA)]

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Hi Rhiannon, I'm so glad that the tumor was non-malignant. Try not to worry about more (I know that is easier said than done :? ) and give Shadow some scritches from me. I don't blame her for not liking the cone, hopefully the time will go fast till you can have it off. I'm happy that she is eating and giving you good BG readings :smile: Sorry about your DD. I hope you guys can talk it out. Many, many hugs! :YMHUG:

 

[Wendy&Neko]

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I'm glad to hear it was a benign tumor. And that you got it out early. That is something to celebrate for Shadow. Give her some time and she'll get over her post surgery trauma. Give her some scritches from me. Her left hip probably does hurt some. And older animals do get skin bumps and lumps. If it's not growing, that's a good thing. You should get a T-shirt like this:

Sorry to hear about your DD. I hope you can work it out soon between the two of you. A mother daughter bond is to be cherished, and she'll realize that.
:YMHUG:

 

[carfurby (GA)]

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I'm so glad it was non-malignant and they got it all. I don't blame you for giving Shadow time without the cone. I hate dealing with those things.

I'm sorry about your DD. I hope you can work things out soon. :YMHUG: :YMHUG:

 

[rhiannon and shadow (GA)]

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my dd won't speak to me.
she texted my DH a few times then quit.

she is willing to go to a counselor.... tomorrow. not now.....

this is so twisted....
we think this is her fiancé's family.... who won't let us near her.
She won't be home tonight, if ever again.

We do have the option to call the police and treat this as a hostage/cult like experience but we don't want to push her away further.
But how the heck
do we ever like them again or the fiancé?
How can this ever be right again?

IT is a huge mistake for her to marry him....now.

 

[Anne & Zener GA]

Good news on the tumor. That sounds like a very strange situation with your DD. I hope you can work things out.
Liz

 

[Barb & Checkers (GA)]

Rhiannon, I'm so glad Shadow's tumor was benign!! *happy dance*

I am so sad for your aching heart, about your DD. Having a grown daughter myself, I know how difficult it is, when there is tension between us. Once, Susan and I didn't talk for two weeks, over something I refused to lend her. Trivial, compared to your problem, I know.
When he was 16, my son, up and left, and went to live with his father in another state. I thought I would die of a broken heart, for him to leave me for a man who abandoned his children!
We eventually worked it out, and have a wonderful relationship now.
Rhiannon, please have patience, and try to not hurt your health, by stressing or obsessing....please. You can't rush her.

Giant Hug
Barb

 

[Cleo & Jane (GA)]

Great news on Shadow's tumor - good job on catching it so quickly!
I hope you and DD are able to work things out. They know how to break their mum's hearts at that age :YMHUG:
Thank goodness they grow up~

 

[Ella & Rusty & Stu(GA)]

((((Rhiannon))))
I am so sorry that all of this is happening at once. it sounds as if Shadow is well on the way to recovery, however, and the cone is a small and temporary price to pay for removal of a non-malignant tumor.

I hope you can work things out with your DD. Perhaps she just needs some breathing space. Don't do anything drastic and don't burn any bridges. Let the situation resolve itself.

:YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG:

Ella & Rusty

 

[julie & punkin (ga)]

is anyone as annoying as one's young adult children? ;-) i have 3.5 of them - i'm with ya! know that this is about her becoming independent. the closer they are to us, the harder they have to work to say "i'm not my mom, i'm different, i'm me." and in doing so, she has to push you away from her. She'll get over this - your job is to endure and wait her out, still loving her while she's working through her stuff. it's not about you, it's about her.

i'm sending you all the best hugs - what a difficult time. :YMHUG:

 

[mariko]

(((Rhiannon)))
Praying that everything will turn out good in the end. :YMHUG:

 

[Ann & Tess GA]

Good news on Shadow!!!!! We all get so focused on them and look at every little thing like it could be disaster. Sit down and breathe.

That's my advice about DD too. You both need a little time to settle, but don't sit and dwell on it. Try to keep your mind busy with other things.

 

[Dyana]

You will work it out with your daughter. It's the old patience pants thing. I know it's hard (((Hugs!)))

I'm glad you found out that the tumor is non-malignant.

 

[Michelle and Mannie (GA)]

Hi Riannon - I am so glad on the cyst/tumor for Shadow Bj's were the same type too.

I am sorry about your DD. I agree with the others - give it time to settle, for both of you. Try not to dwell on it, just keep busy, as hard as that is. The situation will resolve itself.

 

[Marje and Gracie]

Great news about the cyst!!! She it comes to our cats who are so innocent and defenseless, it's so hard for us to not worry about everything. But worrying doesn't help you or Shadow. As hard as it is right now, try to focus on the good and the positive.

I am so sorry about your heartbreak over your DD. My stepdaughter married a guy that we did not like and knew was headed for trouble. We just loved her through it and it didn't take long for her to divorce him and move along with her life. And our relationship is stronger because we supported her as she made her own decisions and learned some hard lessons. It is very difficult....you fear for your children. But she will need you and she knows you are the one who loves her unconditionally.

 

[Deborah & Shasta]

YAY for Shadow's report. Stop looking for things to stress out over with her (side note: pot calling kettle black!). Give your sweet Shadow some scritches from me!

As for your DD, I am so sorry that you are going through this; that she is going through this (she's young and dumb...sorry DD, but it's true...and doesn't really have a clue what she's doing.) I think it's time to pray for this situation over some pizza. Lots of pizza. and lots of cyber hugs for you and DH.

 

[Tonya and Tiki]

Playing catch up. So glad about Shadow's good news. I hope she comes around full circle and has begun to feel better. I am so sorry for what you are going through with your DD. There is nothing quite as complicated as the relationship between Mothers and Daughters. So many other's have offered amazing advice and support so I will just throw you a BIG HUG and prayers that things settle down quickly and return to normal. In hindsight, my parent's were always right about everything and by the time I hit my mid 20's I finally graced them with this realization. I pray she will too.